Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

Narcissism & Abuse

A chalk-style icon of a figure tossing something into a bin, illustrating how a narcissist discards a partner after the breakup.

Breaking Up and the Discard: How a Narcissist Acts at the End of a Relationship

While you're at your lowest, they move on without a backward glance. Inside the narcissist's 'discard': why it's so cold, so calculated, and so hard to make sense of....
A smartphone glowing on rumpled bedsheets, illustrating secret phone use and betrayal in a relationship.

Porn Addiction and The Cheating Husband

When does porn stop being a habit and start becoming betrayal? Where the line sits, what compulsive use can signal, and how it quietly erodes trust and intimacy....
A macaque with a hand near its mouth, illustrating how hard the subtle signs of emotional abuse can be to recognize.

Recognizing the Signs of Emotional and Psychological Abuse

It took Lisa two years to say it out loud, and a sister to name it as abuse. How to recognize the signs of psychological abuse, and stop doubting what you already feel....
A blobfish, used humorously to illustrate what happens to aging narcissists who lose their supply.

What Happens to Narcissists As They Grow Old?

Age strips a narcissist of the looks, charm, and attention they always relied on. What tends to become of them once you're long gone: isolation, bitterness, and blame....
A single glowing lightbulb in the dark, illustrating the moment of realizing a partner is abusive.

How Do People Realize Their Partners are Narcissists? (Part 1 of 2)

For many, it begins with a single word typed into a search bar late at night. The moment people realize their partner is a narcissist, told in their own words. Part one....
A shattered mirror with a hole punched through it, illustrating the fractured sense of reality created by common manipulation tactics.

Manipulative Tactics that Make You Stay

The reason you keep going back isn't weakness. It's design. The manipulation tactics a toxic partner uses to keep you hooked, and how to see through each one....
Attorney and author Bill Eddy, featured in a webinar on recognizing sociopaths and high-conflict personalities.

Bill Eddy’s Sociopaths Webinar (Part 1 of 2)

Bill Eddy calls them the con artists of divorce. A sociopath's core tactics of danger and deception, the telltale smirk, and how they play out in family court. Part one....
A black hole pulling in surrounding light, illustrating how a narcissist never truly changes and keeps drawing you back in.

The Narcissist You Divorced Doesn’t Care About Anybody

In the quiet after he moved out, Lisa kept waiting for him to miss the kids. He never did. Coming to terms with a truth about the narcissist that's painful, but freeing....
An open book beneath a glowing lightbulb atop a stack of books, illustrating educating yourself as power over NPD and BPD.

Educating Yourself on NPD/BPD: Quora as a Resource

Once you understand how a narcissist thinks, the behavior stops feeling so crazy. How to use Quora to educate yourself on NPD and BPD, one real answer at a time....
An ostrich with its head in the sand, a visual metaphor for the denial that keeps people stuck in abusive relationships.

Overcoming Denial in Abusive Relationships

The first challenge isn't leaving. It's waking up. Why denial keeps good people in abusive relationships for years, and the honest look that finally starts to break it....