The Insidious Nature of Narcissistic Abuse and How To Stop Being Their Supply Have you ever noticed that your partner is really only happy when you’re sad, and then when you’re happy, they’re mad? Toxic people love when you are miserable, especially if they’ve made it so. They feed on...
Physically removing yourself is often not the most difficult part of getting out of a toxic relationship. What many people who have never been through it don’t realize is that once you’re out, an abuser’s voice remains in your head. Getting out of an abusive relationship is extremely difficult, and...
“Coercive control” is a common household term in the UK which most of us Americans have never heard of. It’s beginning to weave its way into law in the United States, where normally domestic abuse cases require evidence of physical violence. Long overdue, now various states are looking to expand...
Nobody likes being played. And most people in toxic relationships – which we refer to better as “manipulationships” have no idea that this is exactly what our partners have been doing since the very beginning: using our empathy against us, and tapping on this wonderful quality to keep us “stuck,”...
Note: The video originally appeared as an online workshop followed by a Q&A session. The Q&A is not in this recording. [fvplayer id=”3″] To learn more, consider taking our interactive workshop, “The Top 7 Dangers of Toxic Relationships,” which is available now in BTGO’s Sanity School, and includes exercises, a...
Recently, my friend’s teenage daughter, Angie, began dating a psychopath, and everyone thought he was the greatest guy in the world. Their relationship didn’t follow the usual patterns. In the beginning, there were no red flags. Instead of pushing for something serious right away, he was very slow in asking...
Part Two (Read Part One here) Figuring out the root cause for what’s keeping you awake at night is the first step toward starting to reclaim your sanity, especially as you realize the problem is surprisingly common. When we posted the question, “How did you discover your partner was a...
In the fifteenth year of my marriage, I stumbled upon a computer printout on my middle-aged husband’s desk of a girl who looked to be the age of one of the high school students I used to teach. When I called him up to question who it was, he told...
The end of a relationship is often difficult, but breaking up with a narcissist is a whole new level of confusion and heartbreak. Narcissistic relationships generally follow predictable patterns, and the breakup is referred to as the “discard,” the dictionary definition of which is “getting rid of someone or something...
Sex is the number one topic searched on the internet, and 25% of total search engine requests are porn-related. But at what point, if any, does watching porn endanger a committed relationship? Let’s first look at the difference between a habit and a serious problem. According to Ann Pietrangelo, author...
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If your children are being used as weapons — you’re not imagining it. This is your roadmap.