Find the Strength You Need to Get Your Sanity Back

BTGO offers hope, guidance, and community to people suffering in, or struggling to get out of, relationships with narcissists and other toxic personality types.

Being in a relationship with a toxic partner

can be devastating to you and your children.

If you’ve had enough suffering, you need to wake up… and take action.

Everyone is affected, not just you – your family, your friends… your children.

Take a deep breath…

You are not alone!

We’ve been there, we understand, and we can help.

If you’re just realizing that you might be in a toxic relationship, there are 3 things you need to do right away:

Step One

Understand Your Situation

If you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough, if you’re constantly blamed for things that aren’t your fault, and if there’s endless conflict in your once-wonderful relationship and you don’t know why, the problem might be that your partner is a narcissist or other toxic personality.

This problem is widely misunderstood, and it’s way more common than you might think. It’s also very serious – in some cases even life-threatening.

If you or someone you care about might be in a toxic relationship, take our FREE quiz.

In about 5 minutes, you’ll understand that you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone.

Step Two

Know the Risks

Of Toxic Relationships

Being in, and getting out of, a relationship with a toxic partner can be incredibly destructive. It can take years longer and cost far more than a “normal” situation. It’s critical to understand the risks as early in the process as you can.

Being in a relationship with a toxic partner is a miserable way to live. You may suffer from trauma similar to PTSD. You may experience infidelity, dishonesty, manipulation, stealing, and/or physical abuse. You almost certainly are being abused emotionally. It’s not OK, and it’s not going to change.

In some cases, toxic personalities can become violent, especially as you begin to stand up for yourself. If you feel your personal safety may be at risk, you need to act. Get yourself and your children to safety. Now.

Toxic personalities can be extremely damaging to children. Getting out gives you the best chance to raise healthy kids in your own safe environment, even if your partner has custody part of the time. Staying in the relationship “for the kids” models that abuse is OK – even normal, making it more likely that your kids will fall victim to toxic partners as adults.

Getting away from a toxic partner can cause extreme financial duress. Your partner may have wasted or hidden money or amassed debts. You might waste huge sums on pointless couples counseling. And legal expenses can spiral insanely out of control, for your lawyer and for other professionals.

You may only now be waking up to the fact that you have lost years of your life in a miserable relationship. If you delay taking action, you can wasted years more staying “stuck.” Getting your life back is going to take time, and the longer you wait the longer it will be until you can start living your authentic life.

Unfortunately, our court system is not built to deal with the extreme behaviors of toxic personalities. It’s built to make lawyers rich. In fact, the aggressive and combative nature of toxic people is frequently rewarded in the legal system.

Even if it’s hard to believe right now, you can have a bright future. It’s probably going to get worse before it gets better – getting out of a toxic relationship can be a harrowing experience. And if you have kids, you’re going to need to learn new ways to deal with your partner to protect yourself and your children.

Make a Plan to

Get Over the Hurdles

As hard as it is to be in a toxic relationship, it can be even harder getting out. It’s going to get harder before it gets easier, but it will get easier once you get over the hurdles.



Chris Barry

Toxic Relationship Survivor Chris Barry

I was in a relationship with a high-conflict partner for fourteen years. My divorce took three years and cost more than $300,000, and at least half of that time and money was wasted. I was so naive. I just did not understand what I was up against. However, once I learned how to manage my high-conflict divorce, I was able to overcome great odds and achieve a favorable legal outcome that protects my role as a loving fatherof my two sons.

Lisa Johnson

Toxic Relationship Survivor Lisa Johnson

I was married for nearly eighteen years my best friend, or so I thought, and never imagined I would get a divorce. My parents have been married for over fifty years! After discovering my husband’s web of lies and deceit, I clung to the belief that it was necessary tokeep the family together at all costs.Big mistake. When the split became inevitable, what I thought would be finished peacefully within a couple of months took a full year of major battle. After truly grasping the nature of what I was dealing with, I was able to get support, avoid trial and help my kids through a very difficult time. Today, after what could have been devastating circumstances, my children and I are thriving!



“I can’t thank you and Chris enough… I don’t know where I’d be if I didn’t have you guys.”

“If you had asked me in December if I would be up to this task, I would have said, ‘I don’t know.’ After what I’ve been through and survived the last six months, I know I am!”

“Work is getting much easier to focus on again… also I think the realization that my life will be much better and far less chaotic with her has been calming, almost sobering.”