What would you do to have
some peace in your life?
Being in a marriage with a high-conflict partner
can be devastating to you and your children.
If you’ve had enough suffering, you need to wake up… and get out
Take a Deep Breath
We’ve been there… we understand… and we can help.
Assess your situation
If your partner is high-conflict, the cause may be a mental health issue, such as narcissistic or borderline personality disorder.
Assess your situation honestly with our online quiz.
Know the risks
Being in – and getting out of – a relationship with a high-conflict partner is fraught with peril. Understanding the danger you may be in is a critical step.
If you are in a toxic relationship with a high-conflict partner, and you want to save yourself and your family from permanent harm, you need to wake up… and get out.
Advice and comfort from the trenches.
- Male and female perspectives.
- Two domestic abuse survivors who found healthy love together, helping others.
We can help you
Get Over the Hurdles
For many, coming to understand that the situation has become intolerable is the biggest hurdle.
Understanding the nature and severity of your predicament
Despite the proliferation of high-conflict mental health problems (e.g., narcissism) in our society, most people don’t truly understand these issues.
Avoiding ineffective solutions
Narcissists cannot be “cured,” and investing yourself in counseling or couples therapy delays a true solution and causes more pain.
Accepting that your partner is actually your adversary
It can be so hard to realize that the partner you love is really your (extremely cunning and dangerous) enemy… but you have to do it.
Building your support network
You will need support, but friends & family – and even many therapists – will not understand why your situation is fundamentally different.
Planning and committing to act
Developing your plan to get out without escalating the conflict in your home is a crucial challenge.
Overcoming their devious tricks to keep you
Your toxic partner may have a wide range of tactics they use to keep you in their abusive clutches. You have to work to overcome them.
Navigating a legal system that’s not designed to help you
Shockingly, over-burdened courts and unaware attorneys are not likely to understand your high-conflict divorce.
Building your new life
You may have completely lost your center – narcissists skillfully do that to their victims. But you can get it back… and soar!
Are you ready to talk with someone who will understand?
High-Conflict Divorce Survivor
I was in a relationship with a high-conflict partner for fourteen years. My divorce took three years and cost more than $300,000, and at least half of that time and money was wasted. I was so naive. I just did not understand what I was up against. However, once I learned how to manage my high-conflict divorce, I was able to overcome great odds and achieve a favorable legal outcome that protects my role as a loving fatherof my two sons.
High-Conflict Divorce Survivor
I was married for nearly eighteen years my best friend, or so I thought, and never imagined I would get a divorce. My parents have been married for over fifty years! After discovering my husband’s web of lies and deceit, I clung to the belief that it was necessary tokeep the family together at all costs.Big mistake. When the split became inevitable, what I thought would be finished peacefully within a couple of months took a full year of major battle. After truly grasping the nature of what I was dealing with, I was able to get support, avoid trial and help my kids through a very difficult time. Today, after what could have been devastating circumstances, my children and I are thriving!
“I can’t thank you and Chris enough… I don’t know where I’d be if I didn’t have you guys.”
“If you had asked me in December if I would be up to this task, I would have said, ‘I don’t know.’ After what I’ve been through and survived the last six months, I know I am!”
“Work is getting much easier to focus on again… also I think the realization that my life will be much better and far less chaotic with her has been calming, almost sobering.”