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Being in a relationship with a toxic partner

can be devastating to you and your children.

If you’ve had enough suffering, you need to wake up… and take action.

Take a deep breath… You are not alone!

We’ve been there, we understand, and we can help.

If you’re just realizing that this is your situation, there are 3 things you need to do right away:

Step One

Understand Your Situation

If you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough, if you’re constantly blamed for things that aren’t your fault, and if there’s endless conflict in your once-wonderful relationship and you don’t know why, the problem might be that your partner is a narcissist or other toxic personality.

This problem is widely misunderstood, and it’s way more common than you might think. It’s also very serious – in some cases even life-threatening.

If you or someone you care about might be in a toxic relationship, take our FREE quiz.

In about 5 minutes, you’ll understand that you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone.

Step Two

Know the Dangers

Of Toxic Relationships

Being in, and getting out of, a relationship with a toxic partner can be incredibly destructive. It can take years longer and cost far more than a “normal” situation. It’s critical to understand the dangers early in the process so you can take the initiative and protect yourself and your children.


Being in a relationship with a toxic partner is a miserable way to live. You may suffer from trauma similar to PTSD. You may experience infidelity, dishonesty, manipulation, stealing, and/or physical abuse. You almost certainly are being abused emotionally. It’s not OK, and it’s not going to change.


In some cases, toxic personalities can become violent, especially as you begin to stand up for yourself. If you feel your personal safety may be at risk, you need to act. Get yourself and your children to safety. Now.


Toxic personalities can be extremely damaging to children. Getting out gives you the best chance to raise healthy kids in your own safe environment, even if your partner has custody part of the time. Staying in the relationship “for the kids” models that abuse is OK – even normal – making it more likely that your kids will fall victim to toxic partners as adults.


You may only now be waking up to the fact that you have lost years of your life in a miserable relationship. If you delay taking action, you can wasted years more staying “stuck.” Getting your life back is going to take time, and the longer you wait the longer it will be until you can start living your authentic life.


Getting away from a toxic partner can cause extreme financial duress. Your partner may have wasted or hidden money or amassed debts. You might waste huge sums on pointless couples counseling. And legal expenses can spiral insanely out of control, for your lawyer and for other professionals.


Unfortunately, our court system is not built to deal with the extreme behaviors of toxic personalities. It’s built to make lawyers rich. In fact, the aggressive and combative nature of toxic people is frequently rewarded in the legal system.


Even if it’s hard to believe right now, you can have a bright future. It’s probably going to get worse before it gets better – getting out of a toxic relationship can be a harrowing experience. If you have kids, you’ll need to learn new ways to communicate with your partner.

Step Three

Make a Plan to

Get Over the Hurdles

As hard as it is to be in a toxic relationship, it can be even harder getting out. It’s going to get worse before it gets better, but it will get better once you get over the hurdles.

Our Team

Lisa is a certified domestic violence advocate in her seventh year in the court system dealing with a toxic ex. She has represented herself successfully on both the trial and appellate court levels through scores of appearances, and her case was published in the Connecticut Law Journal this year to be used as legal precedent.

Her live testimony helped pass Jennifers’ Law in Connecticut, the third state in America to expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include “coercive control.” She recently started the world’s first Legal Abuse Support Group, which provides emotional support, expert guidance, and strategies for victims to strengthen their own cases.


Chris is a certified High-Conflict Divorce Coach and domestic violence survivor with a uniquely male perspective. His own high-conflict divorce took 3 years and cost $300,000, and at least half of that time and money was wasted. With all he learned, he eventually achieved a favorable legal outcome, preserving his role as a father to his two sons.

Now, his life’s mission is helping other abuse victims navigate these treacherous waters – especially in the legal system – to save time, money, and emotional energy, and also advocating to increase awareness in the legal community.

Future you will be so proud of right-now you for deciding to get help with what will probably be one of the most difficult challenges in your life.

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