Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

Strategic Oversight & Pro Se

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Representing Yourself? What a 40-Year Litigator Wants Every Pro Se Litigant to Know

Nobody hands you the courtroom rules when you represent yourself. A litigator with forty years in the room explains how to look and sound like you belong there....
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Stalking Through the Courts: Post-Separation Abuse in the Legal System

For an abuser, the courtroom becomes another weapon. How endless filings turn into a form of stalking, and how to fight back when the system keeps you tied to your ex....
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Avoiding Ineffective Solutions

Couples counseling can rescue a healthy marriage and sabotage your chances with an abuser. Why the usual fixes backfire in a high-conflict relationship, and what actually helps....
A glowing human head with an illuminated brain over a DNA strand, illustrating understanding the nature and severity of a personality disorder.

Understanding the Nature & Severity of Your Predicament

Something's wrong, and you can't ignore it any longer. The clear-eyed first step in a high-conflict situation: understanding what you're actually dealing with before you plan your way out....