Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

Divorce & Custody

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What Legal and Physical Custody Actually Mean — Straight From a High-Stakes Divorce Lawyer

Legal custody and physical custody are not the same thing, and confusing them costs people leverage. A high-stakes custody attorney explains the real difference....
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How to Divorce a Narcissist Without Losing Years of Your Life

Ninety percent of what hurts in a high-conflict divorce is the part lawyers cannot fix. A divorce attorney explains where to spend your money and where to stop....
An adult and a young child playing together indoors.

Supervised Visitation Is Not a Punishment: What It Actually Is

Most parents hear supervised visitation and feel judged. A visitation specialist explains what really happens in those hours and why it protects the relationship....
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What Happens in a Custody Evaluation — A Forensic Psychologist Explains

A custody evaluation can feel like being put under a microscope. A forensic psychologist walks through what evaluators actually look at and what they are trying to learn....
Hands marking up financial documents and statements on a desk.

Financial Abuse in Divorce: How to Take Your Power Back

You may have been told for years what you're entitled to. After three decades inside the legal system, Karen Chellew explains how to find out what's actually yours....
A pensive young child resting their chin on their hand, illustrating why courts are not meant to raise your children.

Courts Are Not Meant To Raise Your Children

Family court was never built to raise your children. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on choosing a custody evaluator wisely, and what the system can and cannot decide for your family....
A parent gently comforting a child in soft light, illustrating the value of parenting time in custody battles.

Parenting Time in Custody Battles: Babies, Breastfeeding, and the Family Court’s Balancing Act

Can a nursing baby be ordered into overnight visits? Attorney Brian Pakpour on parenting time with infants, and the court's balancing act when a child is too young to speak....
A loaded moving truck on a city road, illustrating relocation disputes in custody battles.

Relocations in Custody Battles and High-Conflict Divorce

Can your ex move away with the kids? Attorney Brian Pakpour on how relocation really works in high-conflict custody cases, and how to protect your time with your children....
A young child absorbed in reading a book, illustrating the question of who truly determines a child's best interests in a custody case.

Who Determines The Actual “Best Interest of the Child?”

Everyone invokes 'the best interest of the child,' but who actually decides it? Attorney Jude Egan on how minor's counsel, evaluators, and judges weigh your child's future....
A figure straining to push a giant boulder uphill, a Sisyphus metaphor for the repetitive grind of high-conflict divorce.

Here We Go Again…

Eleven days after his divorce was finally official, Chris was served with new custody papers. With a high-conflict ex, getting out is rarely the end of the fight....