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Attorney Steven Eichenblatt beside his memoir Pretend They Are Dead, on surviving childhood parental alienation and reconnecting.
He was the alienated child before he became the attorney who represents them. Steven Eichenblatt on the effects that outlast the court fight, and what he wants targeted parents to understand.

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Can a nursing baby be ordered into overnight visits? Attorney Brian Pakpour on parenting time with infants, and the court's
When a child suddenly wants only one parent, a good evaluator has to ask why. Attorney Jude Egan on telling
Everyone invokes 'the best interest of the child,' but who actually decides it? Attorney Jude Egan on how minor's counsel,
For an abuser, the courtroom becomes another weapon. How endless filings turn into a form of stalking, and how to

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If you're reading this terrified that your child is slipping away, you're not imagining it, and you're not alone. A clear guide to recognizing parental alienation and fighting back.
Family court was never built to raise your children. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on choosing a custody evaluator wisely, and what the system can and cannot decide for your family.
The 'syndrome' label is junk science. Your child's rejection is painfully real. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on what alienation actually is, and why the difference matters in court.
Can a nursing baby be ordered into overnight visits? Attorney Brian Pakpour on parenting time with infants, and the court's balancing act when a child is too young to speak.

Divorce & Custody

Family court was never built to raise your children. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on choosing a custody evaluator wisely, and what the system can and
Can a nursing baby be ordered into overnight visits? Attorney Brian Pakpour on parenting time with infants, and the court's balancing act when a child
Can your ex move away with the kids? Attorney Brian Pakpour on how relocation really works in high-conflict custody cases, and how to protect your
Everyone invokes 'the best interest of the child,' but who actually decides it? Attorney Jude Egan on how minor's counsel, evaluators, and judges weigh your
Eleven days after his divorce was finally official, Chris was served with new custody papers. With a high-conflict ex, getting out is rarely the end

Kids & Co-Parenting

Few things frighten a parent more than watching their child, at any age, fall under a toxic partner's control. How to help without pushing them further away.
Children don't have to be hit to be harmed by abuse at home. What growing up around domestic violence does to a developing brain, and how staying 'for the kids'
When a narcissistic parent walks away, the kids are left carrying the weight. A moment of unexpected hope, and reassurance for the parent picking up the pieces.

Parental Alienation

He was the alienated child before he became the attorney who represents them. Steven Eichenblatt on the effects that outlast the court fight, and what
If you're reading this terrified that your child is slipping away, you're not imagining it, and you're not alone. A clear guide to recognizing parental
The 'syndrome' label is junk science. Your child's rejection is painfully real. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on what alienation actually is, and why the difference
When a child suddenly wants only one parent, a good evaluator has to ask why. Attorney Jude Egan on telling real preference from alienation, and

Narcissism & Abuse

Leaving isn't the hardest part. Staying gone is. Therapist Matt Phifer on why trauma bonding grips the same part of the brain as heroin, and
Abuse without a single bruise. What coercive control actually is, why the courts are only starting to recognize it, and how to name the slow
Nobody likes being played, least of all without realizing it. The predictable phases of a 'manipulationship,' beginning with love-bombing, and how to spot the pattern
A toxic relationship costs far more than your peace of mind. Seven of the biggest dangers, to your health, your finances, and your kids, and
He did everything right, then disappeared, then came back. How intermittent reinforcement turns hope into a hook, and why it makes an abusive relationship so
Denial, ignored red flags, the gut feeling you talked yourself out of. More real stories of the moment it finally clicks that your partner is
He kept lying with the evidence right in her hand. Lisa on living with a pathological liar, why they do it, and how to hold
While you're at your lowest, they move on without a backward glance. Inside the narcissist's 'discard': why it's so cold, so calculated, and so hard

Confidence & Strength

Security expert Greg Glassock teaches police a simple color code for staying safe. How the same white-yellow-orange-red system helps you spot danger early and live without dread.
Lisa believed the divorce would finally bring peace. Seven years and six figures later, she's still in court. A hard-won victory, and the truth about how long 'over' takes.
When her marriage fell apart, even close friends had no idea what to say. Why real emotional connection matters most in a crisis, and how the wrong kind of support
The person you love is now working against you. Why accepting that your partner has become your adversary is the hardest, and most protective, shift you can make.
When her marriage and her world came apart, Lisa found healing in an unexpected place: her body. How rebuilding physical strength restored her sense of control.
Realizing you're in a toxic relationship is hard. Deciding what to do about it, while you're still healing, is harder. On finding the resolve to finally get out.

Strategic Oversight & Pro Se

For an abuser, the courtroom becomes another weapon. How endless filings turn into a form of stalking, and how to fight back when the system
Couples counseling can rescue a healthy marriage and sabotage your chances with an abuser. Why the usual fixes backfire in a high-conflict relationship, and what
Something's wrong, and you can't ignore it any longer. The clear-eyed first step in a high-conflict situation: understanding what you're actually dealing with before you

Life After...

Newly single at 48, Chris was sure he'd be alone by fifty. The same story from the other side: what a real first kiss feels like once you've found someone
Decades of good memories, replaced in a moment she never saw coming. A mid-life romance story, and a reminder that the butterflies are still possible after everything you've survived.
She once doubted she would live past forty. How a quiet pandemic birthday turned into the best one yet, and what it revealed about the peace waiting on the other
Chris's father left when he was twelve and stayed distant for the rest of his life. A raw reflection on grieving a parent whose actions never matched his words.
Emotional abuse doesn't only live in your mind. It shows up in your gut, your sleep, your energy. Dr. Leslie Myers on the physical toll of trauma, and how the
A short dose of perspective for a hard day: one thought worth holding onto while you rebuild your life after a toxic relationship.

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Parental Alienation

He was the alienated child before he became the attorney who represents them. Steven Eichenblatt on the effects that outlast
If you're reading this terrified that your child is slipping away, you're not imagining it, and you're not alone. A
The 'syndrome' label is junk science. Your child's rejection is painfully real. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on what alienation actually
When a child suddenly wants only one parent, a good evaluator has to ask why. Attorney Jude Egan on telling

Parenting Plans

He was the alienated child before he became the attorney who represents them. Steven Eichenblatt on the effects that outlast
If you're reading this terrified that your child is slipping away, you're not imagining it, and you're not alone. A
Family court was never built to raise your children. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on choosing a custody evaluator wisely, and
The 'syndrome' label is junk science. Your child's rejection is painfully real. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on what alienation actually

Communications

He was the alienated child before he became the attorney who represents them. Steven Eichenblatt on the effects that outlast
If you're reading this terrified that your child is slipping away, you're not imagining it, and you're not alone. A
Family court was never built to raise your children. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on choosing a custody evaluator wisely, and
The 'syndrome' label is junk science. Your child's rejection is painfully real. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on what alienation actually

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Been There Got Out: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You

If your children are being used as weapons — you’re not imagining it. This is your roadmap.