Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

domestic violence

A traffic signal glowing red, amber and green, illustrating situational awareness and the color-code mindset.

“Situational Awareness” and the Color Code: How to Safely Function While Out in the World (Or in an Abusive Relationship)

Security expert Greg Glassock teaches police a simple color code for staying safe. How the same white-yellow-orange-red system helps you spot danger early and live without dread....
A hooded figure aiming a camera, illustrating the surveillance and monitoring tactics of coercive control.

Coercive Control: Shedding Light on Invisible Abuse

Abuse without a single bruise. What coercive control actually is, why the courts are only starting to recognize it, and how to name the slow tightening of power over your life....
A crocodile's eye watching just above the waterline, illustrating the lurking dangers of a toxic relationship.

The Top 7 Dangers of Toxic Relationships

A toxic relationship costs far more than your peace of mind. Seven of the biggest dangers, to your health, your finances, and your kids, and why getting out matters....
A macaque with a hand near its mouth, illustrating how hard the subtle signs of emotional abuse can be to recognize.

Recognizing the Signs of Emotional and Psychological Abuse

It took Lisa two years to say it out loud, and a sister to name it as abuse. How to recognize the signs of psychological abuse, and stop doubting what you already feel....
A child huddled and hiding under couch cushions, illustrating the effects on children growing up in a high-conflict home.

The Effects on Children Growing Up With Domestic Abuse

Children don't have to be hit to be harmed by abuse at home. What growing up around domestic violence does to a developing brain, and how staying 'for the kids' can backfire....
A lone speaker addressing a darkened audience, illustrating the work of unmasking a hidden abuser.

Unmasking the Abuser

Charming to everyone else, cruel only to you. Lisa on how abusers hide in plain sight, and the 'frog in the pot' that keeps you from noticing the water heating up....