Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

Overcoming Parental Alienation: Healing & Reconnection I

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Lisa & Chris

Overcoming parental alienation and reconnecting, part one

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Lisa & Chris

Chris Barry and Lisa Johnson are the founders of Been There Got Out — high-conflict divorce strategists who lived it themselves. Partners in life and work for over a decade, they fill the gap between attorneys and therapists for parents up against an abusive or high-conflict ex. Lisa, a certified domestic-violence advocate, represented herself through scores of court hearings and helped pass Connecticut's Jennifer's Law, which expanded the legal definition of abuse to include coercive control. Chris, a certified high-conflict divorce coach with a financial-planning background, specializes in custom parenting plans. Together they've coached hundreds of families, written two books, and interviewed 300+ experts — because when they don't have an answer, they go find the one who does.

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