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I waited more than two years to tell my family that my marriage was over, afraid to say what had been happening in our home. There was no way to explain my ex-husband’s ongoing, despicable behavior, and I was ashamed of how I’d put up with so much for so long. I...
Narcissists are basically emotionally stunted children whose neediness can become all-consuming as they grow older. They have spent so much time relying on looks, fame, connections, or success in business, and old age strips all of these away. Many people become happier as they grow older, especially after fifty, yet...
Part One It’s one thing to find someone who already knows their partner is a narcissist; it’s quite another to meet someone who’s still stuck in a relationship with no clue why life is so filled with conflict, confusion, and chaos. What an “a-ha” moment to figure out the root...
Most of us prefer that our children grow up with an intact family, with two parents. And many of us, myself included, will go to nearly any lengths to preserve that family, including remaining in a relationship involving domestic, or intimate partner violence. Something we may not consider is how...
As humans, we want to believe what others say, especially those we love. It is hard to fathom that someone we care for would not be honest with us. Unfortunately, being in a relationship with a narcissist or abusive personality will often condition us to believe whatever the person says,...
My father died on Christmas Eve. My relationship with him was complicated. To see us together, you’d say we had a great rapport – we bantered, busted on each other, and had an easy time laughing. But his actions spoke louder than his words. He left my mom (and me)...
Bill Eddy’s book, Splitting, was by far the most helpful book we found in navigating one’s way through a high conflict divorce. It was pivotal in finally finishing off Chris’ own three-year legal battle. Eddy, a lawyer and former social worker, recently hosted a two-part webinar titled “Sociopaths: the Con...
Imagine you’re a veteran CIA agent, part of the Russian counterintelligence unit. One day, you show up to your office and learn that your closest colleague – someone you’ve known for twenty years – has been apprehended after it was learned that he was a Russian mole. Your mind reels...
One of the freakiest feelings I ever experienced was in the days after the narcissist I was married to for nearly 18 years and father of our two children moved out of the house. It was so quiet. I kept wondering why he wasn’t responding to our children’s calls or...
If your marriage or serious relationship has become strained, you and your partner may consider couples counseling. There’s no doubt that a good therapist can help otherwise healthy couples work through issues that are giving them trouble. But if your partner is an abuser, it’s a completely different story, and...
With Dr. Leslie Myers | Stacy Brookman Emotional Recovery Summit After being in an emotionally abusive relationship, there are things we know we must do to heal our brains and hearts. But what we might not realize is that being in such a toxic situation also takes its toll on our...
There’s something wrong in your relationship, and it’s become enough of a problem that you can’t ignore it any longer. You’ve decided to try to figure out what the issue is. That’s a good first step, but now you’ve got some work to do. First and foremost, if you are...
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