Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

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A distressed parent clutching their head in anguish, illustrating that parental alienation is not a syndrome yet the child's rejection causes very real pain.

Why “Parental Alienation” is Not A Syndrome But Your Child’s Rejection is Real

The 'syndrome' label is junk science. Your child's rejection is painfully real. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on what alienation actually is, and why the difference matters in court....
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“Situational Awareness” and the Color Code: How to Safely Function While Out in the World (Or in an Abusive Relationship)

Security expert Greg Glassock teaches police a simple color code for staying safe. How the same white-yellow-orange-red system helps you spot danger early and live without dread....
A hand working a marionette on strings, illustrating the manipulation tactics of toxic personalities.

Common Manipulative Tactics of Toxic People

Nobody likes being played, least of all without realizing it. The predictable phases of a 'manipulationship,' beginning with love-bombing, and how to spot the pattern early....
A lone figure shining a searchlight into darkness, illustrating the slow search to see a partner's true nature.

How Do People Realize Their Partners are Narcissists? (Part 2 of 2)

Denial, ignored red flags, the gut feeling you talked yourself out of. More real stories of the moment it finally clicks that your partner is a narcissist. Part two....
A macaque with a hand near its mouth, illustrating how hard the subtle signs of emotional abuse can be to recognize.

Recognizing the Signs of Emotional and Psychological Abuse

It took Lisa two years to say it out loud, and a sister to name it as abuse. How to recognize the signs of psychological abuse, and stop doubting what you already feel....
A single glowing lightbulb in the dark, illustrating the moment of realizing a partner is abusive.

How Do People Realize Their Partners are Narcissists? (Part 1 of 2)

For many, it begins with a single word typed into a search bar late at night. The moment people realize their partner is a narcissist, told in their own words. Part one....
Attorney and author Bill Eddy, featured in a webinar on recognizing sociopaths and high-conflict personalities.

Bill Eddy’s Sociopaths Webinar (Part 1 of 2)

Bill Eddy calls them the con artists of divorce. A sociopath's core tactics of danger and deception, the telltale smirk, and how they play out in family court. Part one....
A shadowy figure in a hat and trench coat, illustrating the hard moment of accepting that a partner is actually abusive.

Accepting That Your Partner is Actually Your Adversary

The person you love is now working against you. Why accepting that your partner has become your adversary is the hardest, and most protective, shift you can make....
A glowing human head with an illuminated brain over a DNA strand, illustrating understanding the nature and severity of a personality disorder.

Understanding the Nature & Severity of Your Predicament

Something's wrong, and you can't ignore it any longer. The clear-eyed first step in a high-conflict situation: understanding what you're actually dealing with before you plan your way out....
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Educating Yourself on NPD/BPD: Quora as a Resource

Once you understand how a narcissist thinks, the behavior stops feeling so crazy. How to use Quora to educate yourself on NPD and BPD, one real answer at a time....