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Two cockatiels affectionately touching beaks, illustrating the tender follow-up to a memorable first kiss.
Newly single at 48, Chris was sure he'd be alone by fifty. The same story from the other side: what a real first kiss feels like once you've found someone safe. Part two....
Two prairie dogs touching mouths as if kissing, a playful image for a first kiss that knocked my socks off.
Decades of good memories, replaced in a moment she never saw coming. A mid-life romance story, and a reminder that the butterflies are still possible after everything you've survived....
A birthday cake topped with lit HAPPY candles and strawberries, illustrating an unexpectedly joyful birthday during a hard season.
She once doubted she would live past forty. How a quiet pandemic birthday turned into the best one yet, and what it revealed about the peace waiting on the other side of leaving....
A couple in a cafe, one tenderly kissing the other's hand, illustrating the push-pull of intermittent reinforcement in a toxic relationship.
He did everything right, then disappeared, then came back. How intermittent reinforcement turns hope into a hook, and why it makes an abusive relationship so hard to leave....
A vintage Polaroid-style snapshot of the author as a grinning young child seated beside his father, a treasured memory behind the post My Father Died on Christmas Eve.
Chris's father left when he was twelve and stayed distant for the rest of his life. A raw reflection on grieving a parent whose actions never matched his words....
A red DANGER warning sign with a red flag against the sky, illustrating the continued warning signs in a toxic relationship.
Already in it? Natalie Hoffman's 'ladder out of the pit,' the ten painful rungs of leaving an abusive relationship, and what a genuinely healthy one looks like. Part two....

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Been There Got Out: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You

If your children are being used as weapons — you’re not imagining it. This is your roadmap.