Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

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A crocodile's eye watching just above the waterline, illustrating the lurking dangers of a toxic relationship.

The Top 7 Dangers of Toxic Relationships

A toxic relationship costs far more than your peace of mind. Seven of the biggest dangers, to your health, your finances, and your kids, and why getting out matters....
A couple in a cafe, one tenderly kissing the other's hand, illustrating the push-pull of intermittent reinforcement in a toxic relationship.

Don’t Be Fooled: Intermittent Reinforcement and Protecting Ourselves From Emotional Abuse

He did everything right, then disappeared, then came back. How intermittent reinforcement turns hope into a hook, and why it makes an abusive relationship so hard to leave....
A child huddled and hiding under couch cushions, illustrating the effects on children growing up in a high-conflict home.

The Effects on Children Growing Up With Domestic Abuse

Children don't have to be hit to be harmed by abuse at home. What growing up around domestic violence does to a developing brain, and how staying 'for the kids' can backfire....
A torn newspaper scrap reading #MeToo, illustrating narcissistic abuse coming to light in the #MeToo era.

#MeToo Meets Narcissistic Abuse

Four years out, and his ex still uses their boys to get to him. Chris on the abuse that hides behind charm and respectability, and why it's so often believed last....