Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

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A couple in a cafe, one tenderly kissing the other's hand, illustrating the push-pull of intermittent reinforcement in a toxic relationship.

Don’t Be Fooled: Intermittent Reinforcement and Protecting Ourselves From Emotional Abuse

He did everything right, then disappeared, then came back. How intermittent reinforcement turns hope into a hook, and why it makes an abusive relationship so hard to leave....
Hands forming affectionate gestures against the sea, illustrating the importance of emotional intimacy.

The Importance of Emotional Intimacy and Deep Connection, Especially During a Crisis

When her marriage fell apart, even close friends had no idea what to say. Why real emotional connection matters most in a crisis, and how the wrong kind of support can wound....
A pink water lily blooming on dark water, illustrating healing the body after emotional abuse.

Healing the Body After Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse doesn't only live in your mind. It shows up in your gut, your sleep, your energy. Dr. Leslie Myers on the physical toll of trauma, and how the body heals....
A flexed arm showing strength, illustrating trauma recovery and the importance of caring for the body while healing.

Trauma and the Importance of Physical Strength in Healing

When her marriage and her world came apart, Lisa found healing in an unexpected place: her body. How rebuilding physical strength restored her sense of control....
A cartoon groundhog alone in its burrow beside a 'Birthday today' sign, illustrating a narcissist's craving for special treatment on holidays.

Narcissist Holiday

A narcissist can't stand watching other people enjoy themselves. Why the holidays bring out their contempt, and how to protect your own peace through the season....
A person hang-gliding high above the landscape, illustrating the courage of committing to take action.

Committing to Take Action

Realizing you're in a toxic relationship is hard. Deciding what to do about it, while you're still healing, is harder. On finding the resolve to finally get out....