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What Happens in a Custody Evaluation — A Forensic Psychologist Explains

A custody evaluation can feel like being put under a microscope. A forensic psychologist walks through what evaluators actually look at and what they are trying to learn....
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Representing Yourself? What a 40-Year Litigator Wants Every Pro Se Litigant to Know

Nobody hands you the courtroom rules when you represent yourself. A litigator with forty years in the room explains how to look and sound like you belong there....
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Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: How to Handle the Bad-Mouthing Without Poisoning Your Kids

Most bad-mouthing isn't shouting. It's the small, deniable comments that add up. A co-parenting coach breaks down what your child actually hears, and how to answer it....
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What “Reunification Therapy” Really Means: An Attorney-Therapist Explains

The name scares parents on both sides of a custody fight. An attorney-therapist explains what this work actually involves, and why success rarely looks like the outcome you pictured....
Protecting your role with a strong parenting plan

Protecting Your Role with a Parenting Plan

With attorney Kevin Hoffkins....
A retro 1950s sci-fi movie-poster illustration reading 'Parental Alienation! When your ex turns the kids against you,' showing children pulled into a flying-saucer beam as their mother reaches out below.

My Ex Is Turning My Kids Against Me: How to Recognize What’s Happening and What You Can Do About It

If you're reading this terrified that your child is slipping away, you're not imagining it, and you're not alone. A clear guide to recognizing parental alienation and fighting back....
A pensive young child resting their chin on their hand, illustrating why courts are not meant to raise your children.

Courts Are Not Meant To Raise Your Children

Family court was never built to raise your children. Psychologist Dr. Mark Singer on choosing a custody evaluator wisely, and what the system can and cannot decide for your family....
A parent gently comforting a child in soft light, illustrating the value of parenting time in custody battles.

Parenting Time in Custody Battles: Babies, Breastfeeding, and the Family Court’s Balancing Act

Can a nursing baby be ordered into overnight visits? Attorney Brian Pakpour on parenting time with infants, and the court's balancing act when a child is too young to speak....
A glowing neon question mark in a dark room, illustrating the uncertainty when a child insists 'I only want to be with Mommy/Daddy' and how custody evaluators may weigh it.

“I Only Want To Be With Mommy/Daddy”: How Custody Evaluators May Look More Deeply Into Parental Alienation Claims

When a child suddenly wants only one parent, a good evaluator has to ask why. Attorney Jude Egan on telling real preference from alienation, and what it means for your case....
A young child absorbed in reading a book, illustrating the question of who truly determines a child's best interests in a custody case.

Who Determines The Actual “Best Interest of the Child?”

Everyone invokes 'the best interest of the child,' but who actually decides it? Attorney Jude Egan on how minor's counsel, evaluators, and judges weigh your child's future....