Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out
Been There Got Out

High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, & Co-Parenting Strategists

abuse

A traffic signal glowing red, amber and green, illustrating situational awareness and the color-code mindset.

“Situational Awareness” and the Color Code: How to Safely Function While Out in the World (Or in an Abusive Relationship)

Security expert Greg Glassock teaches police a simple color code for staying safe. How the same white-yellow-orange-red system helps you spot danger early and live without dread....
A hooded figure aiming a camera, illustrating the surveillance and monitoring tactics of coercive control.

Coercive Control: Shedding Light on Invisible Abuse

Abuse without a single bruise. What coercive control actually is, why the courts are only starting to recognize it, and how to name the slow tightening of power over your life....
A crocodile's eye watching just above the waterline, illustrating the lurking dangers of a toxic relationship.

The Top 7 Dangers of Toxic Relationships

A toxic relationship costs far more than your peace of mind. Seven of the biggest dangers, to your health, your finances, and your kids, and why getting out matters....
A child huddled and hiding under couch cushions, illustrating the effects on children growing up in a high-conflict home.

The Effects on Children Growing Up With Domestic Abuse

Children don't have to be hit to be harmed by abuse at home. What growing up around domestic violence does to a developing brain, and how staying 'for the kids' can backfire....
A shadowy figure in a hat and trench coat, illustrating the hard moment of accepting that a partner is actually abusive.

Accepting That Your Partner is Actually Your Adversary

The person you love is now working against you. Why accepting that your partner has become your adversary is the hardest, and most protective, shift you can make....
A torn newspaper scrap reading #MeToo, illustrating narcissistic abuse coming to light in the #MeToo era.

#MeToo Meets Narcissistic Abuse

Four years out, and his ex still uses their boys to get to him. Chris on the abuse that hides behind charm and respectability, and why it's so often believed last....
A lone speaker addressing a darkened audience, illustrating the work of unmasking a hidden abuser.

Unmasking the Abuser

Charming to everyone else, cruel only to you. Lisa on how abusers hide in plain sight, and the 'frog in the pot' that keeps you from noticing the water heating up....