Take Our High-Conflict Quiz

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There are 33 questions in the quiz, and no right or wrong answers. Think carefully about each answer.

We’ll give you a summary of your responses along with some information about each question at the end.

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Did your relationship with your partner get serious very quickly, and almost seem “too good to be true”?

1 out of 33

Does your partner make you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough?

2 out of 33

Does your partner react to criticism with disproportionate anger?

3 out of 33

Do you find yourself “walking on eggshells” to avoid setting your partner off?

4 out of 33

Does your partner project their own traits onto others, including you?

5 out of 33

Does your partner express unjustified fear that you will be cheat on him/her?

6 out of 33

Is your partner excessively focused on his/her accomplishments, social status, possessions, etc.?

7 out of 33

If you have a crisis in your life, does your partner focus more on how it affects him/her?

8 out of 33

Does your partner relish being the center of attention?

9 out of 33

Does your partner seem to feel that the world “owes” them something?

10 out of 33

Have your partner’s prior relationships, including both work and personal life, ended badly?

11 out of 33

Does your partner lack, close, healthy long-term relationships in his/her life?

12 out of 33

Does your partner undermine the other close relationships in your life?

13 out of 33

Does your partner belittle your friends and family members?

14 out of 33

Does your partner lack trust in others?

15 out of 33

Does your partner claim that he/she was a victim of abusive or neglectful treatment in the past (such as by parents, exes, or former co-workers)?

16 out of 33

If you have children, does your partner seem more focused on how their accomplishments appear than on who they are as people?

17 out of 33

Does your partner make you doubt yourself?

18 out of 33

Does your partner act like he/she is more capable than you when making decisions?

19 out of 33

Does your partner feel like nobody understands him/her or that he/she is “on a different level” than other people?

20 out of 33

Does your partner claim to be the recipient of frequent romantic or sexual advances?

21 out of 33

Does your partner claim that others adore him/her?

22 out of 33

Does your partner frequently cancel plans at the last minute?

23 out of 33

Does your partner ruin events that are important to you?

24 out of 33

Does your partner tell you that others are saying negative things about you?

25 out of 33

Have you worried about your partner committing suicide?

26 out of 33

Does your partner react badly if you don’t do what he/she wants?

27 out of 33

Does your partner express extreme opinions about others (e.g., “they’re the best” or “they’re horrible”)?

28 out of 33

Does your partner suffer from depression, mood swings, or periods of extreme fatigue?

29 out of 33

Did your partner warn you early in the relationship that he/she had a troubled life?

30 out of 33

Is your partner perpetually the victim, claiming that the problems in his/her life are someone else’s fault?

31 out of 33

Does your partner harbor old grudges?

32 out of 33

Does your partner struggle to apologize or quickly shift the focus to something you did wrong?

33 out of 33